Skyler Griswold spoke at ChefDance during the Sundance Film Festival in January 2020, celebrating remarkable women in food, film, business, technology, and philanthropy. She closed her speech with an original poem, “Lucky Little Girl,” which shines a light on the immense daily struggles faced by women around the globe, and how they must overcome to celebrate their individuality.
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A CALL TO ACTiON FROM SKYLER GRISWOLD
Lucky Little Girl
The boy on my school basketball team screams like a girl.
What does that mean?
Whether I’m a guy, whether I’m a girl, or something in between,
when did that become a bad thing?
Parents want their kids to think differently but they don’t treat their children any differently than society does.
We have to dress like a lady and eat like a lady and yet we should be treated differently.
We have been put into boxes that we are not shaped to fill.
Throughout fourteen years I have been alive,
I have seen many forms of discrimination that affect the way I live my everyday life.
No one should be treated lesser because of color, religion, or their gender. We are enough the way that we are.
History knows that discrimination has already left its scars.
I am one of the lucky ones.
One of the lucky little girls who gets to go to school every day,
And does not pray for light at the end of an infinite tunnel.
My tunnel has windows
And an open ceiling.
While some are so far underground,
That the roots of plants still don’t reach them.
I am one of the lucky ones.
One of the lucky little girls who doesn’t worry about having to survive the next day. But even the lucky ones make only 79 cents for every dollar a man makes.
And that is here in the United States of America.
The land of dreams.
But that's just it dreams are what get us out of bed every morning because we hope that one day they won’t just be dreams anymore.
Let me remind you one more time that every little girl was born with dreams.
But how are they going to dream while they sleep with one eye open,
In a house they can only live in if it is spotless.
Because in over 20 prominent countries a girl’s ability to clean the house is valued over her ability to read.
But even the fortunate girl that can walk into a school is sometimes afraid of the male teachers and students that stare at her longer than they stare at the whiteboard.
She shouldn’t have to turn around twice to look back at the drunk man staring at her from behind.
She shouldn’t have to fight for her education because no one should have to fight for what we all know they deserve.
She shouldn’t have to wear a dress when she feels better in jeans.
She might like the kitchen,
Doesn’t mean she belongs there.
She belongs in any room she decides to step into.
Whether it be a boardroom or a basketball court,
She belongs to a city, a family, a home.
Not to the gawking eyes that turn her body into something she should be ashamed of,
Because what she eats is entirely up to her.
But she spends hours eating in front of a mirror looking for diets on the internet,
That she thinks might make her beautiful.
She is in a relationship she refuses to leave knowing she isn’t valued.
She walked in making sure there was a door with the words exit.
She just didn’t see the lock.
Walking on eggshells to make sure she isn’t an inconvenience to those around her.
So many people are afraid to call themselves a feminist because they don’t understand what it really means.
The definition of feminism is the political, economic and social equality of the sexes.
The only person that should be ashamed is the one not calling themselves a feminist.
To every little girl growing up,
Be an inconvenience.
Know that you are absolutely stunning even when you don’t feel it.
There is NO ONE beauty.
Think about it this way,
A sunset and a flower are both pretty,
And yet they look nothing alike.
So stop scrolling through pictures and comparing yourself to what you think is beautiful.
Love your body for all it is because it has taken you through every up and down and sideways.
Every scratch and every scar is a reminder of how far you’ve come.
Don’t let anyone treat you as less than you are worth because one day you will find someone who thinks you are worth nothing less than everything.
Someone once told me that I was cheating myself by limiting my abilities before I even knew what they were.
Know that you are the only person standing in your way and your limitations are only as big as you let them grow.
Golda Meir once said, “Whether women are better than men I cannot say -- but I can say they are certainly NO WORSE”
With a little help from every person in this room,
We could all be LUCKY LITTLE GIRLS.